Rediscover Yourself (extrovert vs introvert)

“We all have times when we are ‘out of character’, feel outside and beside ourselves, and behave in unexpected ways.”           (Naomi L. Quenk, 2002).

Sometime you feel like you are not you? Confuse? Faking a smile in front of others just to make them feel ease with you? What other people think is matter more than yours?

No worries. You are not alone.

I'm sharing the idea about your unexpected behaviors. Why we could behave such way?

sometime we are happy ..

sometime we are cool...

sometime we look like 'a girl beside a door'....

no mood...

but there is a time, we can just be crazy!

There is one book. 

'Was that really me? How everyday stress brings out our hidden personality.' 

Written by Naomi L. Quenk.

As what Naomi said, we are all personality theorists. I laughed. Can't wait to finish my reading. Can't wait to share this with my dearest readers...

But first, I think my readers might want to know whether they are extrovert or introvert person. 

Extrovert is an outgoing and overtly expressive person. Always concern with external things or objective consideration. They are also:

• Enjoy making decisions.

• Like to control things.

• Comfortable in leadership positions.

• Require logicality and rationality in most situations.

• Want to be recognized for their accomplishments.

• Often critics.

• Have a honest and direct to the point communication style.

• Love working and communicating.

• Have little patience with confusion or inefficiency.

• Did not take time to understand and quickly judge people.

• Think best when talking with people.

• Will try to ignore problems that might hurt their feelings.

In different....

Introvert is a shy or reticent person. This type of person is predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than external things. You might be an introvert person if:

• Use inner values for judging self.

• Easily take offense towards criticism.

• Flexible, open, complicated, mild, modest and often self-effacing.

• Tolerant, understanding and forgiving.

• Seek to affirm all parties in a controversy.

• Acting swiftly, confidently and competent to handle difficult situation.

• Having the freedom to be creative. 

• Love writing.

• Concerned about your intellectual abilities.

• Smarter, knowledgeable and thinking person. Always seem as a wise person.

• Hypersensitive to illogical, dishonesty and inaccuracy in others.

• Quick to point out errors made by people.

• Hypersensitive to the 'thinking' issues of truth and justice.

• Select hobbies that engage your thinking function (i.e. enjoy computer games that require logic and strategy)

• Enjoy cleaning house, organizing drawers and photo-realistic drawing of objects and people.

• Dislike strict deadlines, rigid rules and regulations.

• Very short-tempered, critical and unreasonable.

What I have learned from my reading is: as a normal person, we need to admit that we can never run from making mistakes. Accept mistakes as natural consequences of being human, but learn as well not to repeat our mistakes.

Creative. Not everyone is bestowed with this skill. To be creative, we are not necessarily have to accept or depend on other people’s idea. Just be happy with our own definition. If you draw a picture of cat, but people got asked 'is it a rabbit?'..hell ya! Who cares?

Avoid negative judgments about yourself. Listen to your inner voice – know what you really want. Look at Selena Gomez! How happy she is to sing, "cuz the heart know what it want..aa..aa..ah..",) 

Don't try to be perfect at everything! Be reasonable and realistic. 

Not being true, not being you in certain occasions might be caused by everyday stress that brings out our hidden personality. We are out of control. Feeling of sorrow about our loss and we cry...and that's normal. 

So, rediscover yourself. Either you are an extrovert or introvert, there is no right or wrong for both. Tackle your hidden personality wisely. It will help to improve your life better.

References:

Gregoire, C. (2014). 23 signs you’re secretly an introvert. Retrieved on February 27, 2015 from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/20/introverts-signs-am-i-introverted_n_3721431.html

Quenk, N. L. (2002). Was that really me? How everyday stress brings out our hidden personality. California: Davies-Black Publishing.